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“In the end the only study of music is music. Program notes and pre-concert lectures can be helpful ways of showing you the door in the wall and of turning on some extra light, but the only thing that matters is what happens privately, between you and the music. As with any other form of falling in love, no one can do it for you. Listening to music is not like getting a haircut or a manicure, it is something for you to do. Music, like any worthwhile partner in love, is demanding, sometimes exasperatingly demanding. Its capacity to give is as near to infinite as anything in this world, and what it offers us is always and inescapably in exact proportion to what we ourselves give” Michael Steinberg